Convention Flirting (A How-to Guide by Erocosplayer Gumiho Hannya)

A while back I wrote a full Up and Coming Cosplayer feature on Gumiho Hannya, an erocosplayer.  In the process, I think we have developed an internet acquaintance, so I asked her if she would like to write for the site.  She expressed concern at having time to do so, which is no surprise as she has constant shooting, costuming, and Patreon obligations for her international following.  She did, however ask me that if she somehow could write one article for All Cool Things™, what would it be about.  I immediately suggested, “How to Hit on Cosplayers without Being a Fuckboi,” and she said that she liked it…Imagine my surprised when a couple of weeks later she said she wrote the article!

Now, Gumi is not staff, and does not have an account here, but she did write the article below, not me, HERETICPRIME.  I just uploaded it, added some pictures, and minimally edited it, and by that I mean that I changed a “TM” to “™.” All spelling, grammar, and sentence structure, I left as is, because I think that she is just so darn cute, and I that it’s a part of her charm…even the weird half upside quotation marks that her word processor uses.

Well, enough of me.  I’m sure you want to learn how one of the sexiest, nicest, most fanservicing erocosplayers personally tells YOU how to let a cosplayer know that you like her. (Oh, if there are any male cosplayers that would like to make one for the ladies, <Yeah, like they need it!> please contact us!  We’d love to publish it!)

Oh yeah, and if you liked the pictures used in this article, each and every one, and many more were in Gumiho’s Cosplayer Score Card, Interview, and Pictorial.  Check them out if you haven’t already!

So I was asked to write about the topic, and I quote „What’s the best way to hit on a cosplayer at the con, and not be a total fuckboi?“ and I thought the topic was interesting to write about, so here we gooo:

As in all situations where you might think „hey this person there seems interesting, I wanna try my luck“ you need to consider the following: 1. Does the context of the situation allow flirting? 2. Does the person wants to be flirted with. 3. Would I want to be hit on by myself? I’m gonna ellaborate these, don’t worry. And if I sound like I’m about to write an essay for school, yeah that’s pretty much the last time I wrote, but I promise I’ll try to make it less dull.

So, if you’re at a convention (yes those things that existed ages ago and in my dreams they will exist again one day IRL), the chance that a cosplayer wants to be flirted with, is already pretty low. They are not zero and in some cases you might even meet your player number 2 but they are low. Why?

Well for instance, most cosplayers don’t want to be crushed on based on their cosplay. Let’s say, you’re cosplaying Tifa and there’s this really cute guy who hits on you at a convention. Is he hitting on you cause he dreams of having the snu snu with his childhood waifu (most cosplayers do NOT want to fulfill you that fantasy) or does he actually want to talk to YOU, the real person? Hard to tell.

And also, let me tell you right now, if your plan actually includes having the snu snu with your childhood/anime crush waifu, drop it right now. Unless you’re in a longterm relationship with a cosplayer who does cosplay porn, there’s no way any cosplayer would have sex in their expensive cosplay and potentially ruin it.

But as mentioned earlier, the chances AREN’T zero. Especially if you’re actually looking for something long term. I mean, the overall context is probably even in your favor. If you’re both at a convention, the chances that you have at least one anime in common you can talk about, is high. Or that you’re both into the same game or movie show.

So, you actually talked to that cute girl over there sipping on some bubble tea. Now let’s talk about consent and genuine interest.

Is she smiling when talking to you, touching her hair, asking you questions back, moving a little closer?

→ You can continue talking to her. She might also just be nice though. Don’t get angry when you confused basic politeness with flirting please.

Is she answering in very short sentences, or even moving a bit back from you?

→ Respect that she’s not into you, say goodbye politely and move on. She might already be seeing someone, or she doesn’t want to date anyone right now or is simply not interested. All of these possibilities are very much real and you can be the most friendly and handsome dude there is, and there’s still gonna be girls out there who just aren’t into you, same as there’s always gonna be guys who don’t like Megan Fox. (idk if that’s true actually but you get my point) And that’s okay.

What do most people like? Talking about themselves. Yes, there I said it. Asking people questions is a great way of both showing your (hopefully genuine) interest and giving you sympathy points. Avoid talking a lot about yourself or giving unsolicied advice. Also, if you find out you’re both playing the same video game, don’t offer to boost her, it’s lowkey insulting. Instead ask if you can play together sometime.

There, you made a human connection. It’s up to your evolving interpersonal relationship how things will develop. The most vital advice I can give is: Don’t be a nice guy™. What’s a nice guy™? A guy who thinks „being nice“ is a personality trait and that being a „good friend“ (aka only being „friends“ with someone cause you’re hoping to get some) should be rewarded with snu snu and in the end, often turns out to be the opposite of nice when facing a rejection. Being rejected is part of life, happens to everyone.

Remember how I said at the start you should ask yourself if you’d want to be hit on by yourself? Yeah, I meant that. It goes for both looks and personality. See something in the mirror you don’t like? Everyone can look decent with a little effort. Get a haircut, a nicely trimmed beard or clean shave, skin care, buy a gym membership and some good clothes. Learn to like yourself, and you will radiate confidence. Sounds cheesy, but it’s true. Confidence is sexy. Just don’t be an arrogant douchebag.

Do you have more than one hobby? Stuff you can talk about? Ambitions? Ambitions are crazy hot to have, and this is not a joke, repeat, not a joke. Something you’re passionate about, that you’re working and aiming for in life. And obviously, don’t be an asshole. Practice speaking loud and clearly. Yes, works wonders.

Okay and there’s one more thing and I’ll shut up I swear: Every person is DIFFERENT. Yes, there is no definite guide to talking to women/cosplayers whatever. Sure, some things, like, don’t be an asshole are good general rules, but in reality, there is no magic key that will make every person fall in love with you or even make them like you. If that were the case, everyone would know about it already. You gotta get out there and treat everyone slightly different based on what you find out/recognize about them.

Okay, actually, I take that back, don’t go out there RIGHT NOW. You know, stay inside, stay safe, stay sane if possible and let’s pray conventions will happen at some point in our lives again, preferably before I turn fifty, hope this essay/text/guide??/thingie??? was helpful or at least somewhat entertaining to read,

Your Gumi

PS: English isn’t my native language so if you find any grammar errors or typos…s-sorry?

Keep them b-baka!

PPS: I am not in any way AT ALL trying to say that my opinion is perfect or „right“, other people might disagree with what I have to say and that’s okay, take it all with a grain of salt please.

 

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Up and Coming Cosplayers with Gumiho: Pictorial

I have thoroughly enjoyed every single facet of this feature with Gumiho, and now we come to the last part of the feature:  The Pictorial.

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Up and Coming Cosplayers with Gumiho: Interview

I admire cosplayers, and I enjoy not only their art, but learning what motivates them in it.  That is a big reason that I started this page in the first place.  That love has only intensified and manifested in our taking a more media direction rather than retail.

As the face of cosplay has changed, so have the types of cosplayers and how far the envelope been pushed.  There are new breeds of erocosplayers, fetish cosplayers, and lewd/nude content providers.  Some people may disagree, but I think that cosplay is making a full circle back to it’s first roots:  erotic roleplay.

Think about it.  The first place that a person really roleplayed in a well-known fashion was in erotic roleplay:  sexy strippers, wives dressing up as naughty Catholic schoolgirls, and of course sexy Halloween costumes.  In my guestimation, they even predate the Star Trek, Star Wars, and comic book geeks that started cosplay on this continent…but I digress.  ‘Back to Erotic cosplay.

Many of the erotic cosplay content providers are either busy making content, don’t really care for conversation, or some weird combination of both.  This is why it is so fortunate to find such a high profile cosplayer that not only produces so much great content, but is willing to sit down and share about it.

Ladies and Gentlemen, you are in for a treat.  All Cool Things™ would like to formally introduce you to Gumiho, also known as Gumiho.arts.

 

 

Your English is exceptional.  How many languages do you speak?  How do you speak this one so well?

 

 

Thank you so much for the compliment, I am fluent in German and English and I know a tiiiny bit of Spanish and Japanese, but not enough to speak it.  When I was little I was given lots of English books to practice reading with so I developed English skills rather fast, and most of my followers are English speaking, so there’s that.  Sometimes I even talk in English by accident to German friends. *uff*

 

 

 

 

I have to tell you: For a cosplayer that is out making such erotic content, you are remarkably polite!  In this climate of Patreons and OnlyFans, I get the vibe that most of the women are only in it for the money, and fake any warmth for the people supporting their art.  That’s really not a question in itself, but I was wondering:  What do you feel about your fellow erotic cosplayers that provide content like you?  Do you feel them a little cold or callus?  Do you really have an opinion?

 

 

Thank you, even though it saddens me to hear you made rather unpleasant experiences with other girls, personally, I know quite a lot of girls who have a great passion and love for this kind of content as well (: Sometimes I get across girls who are in it only for the money, and while it makes me a bit sad, as I then can’t share my passionate views about photo projects with them, I also think, who are we to judge, I’m sure there’s plenty of people who are stuck in other jobs except sex work just for the money; take retail work for example.  About personality:  There’s probably bad apples in every community, but most of my experiences with other girls were rather positive.  I love this job for several reasons, but one of them is definitely that I was able to met a lot of amazing and kind girls on the way.

 

 

 

 

This question can kind of go along with the last one.  While I have seen a few cosplayers that provide erotic content on free Onlyfans, like yourself, you are the ONLY one that I know does that as an alternative to their regular one.  This was another thing about you that earned some respect from me.  What inspired you to do this. (You really didn’t have to, and it’s kinda cool.)

 

 

Oh, that is actually surprising to hear! I know quite a lot of girls who have both a free and a paid OnlyFans, since it’s a great way to have at least one social where you don’t have to fear about shadow ban, weird algorithms or being deleted for too NSFW stuff.  Plus, I love having an alternative for those who can’t afford my paid OF, or who want to check the content out more a bit first, since this way I can still stay connected with everyone.

I can explain this with another example from around 2 years ago:  I used to have only Facebook and Instagram back in the day, and when my first posts started to get deleted (nothing too wild even, I wasn’t naked or anything), I had two choices:  Either put everything behind paywall and post only somewhat safe for work, or look out for other socials so I can continue to post free lewds.  I love sharing my photo projects so I wanted to post at least a part from every set on socials for free.  That’s why I opened up a Twitter.  However, even Twitter is shadow banning lewd stuff to death now, and my Reddit is really hard to grow, so a free OF was the perfect way out of this misery!  It’s my lewdest free social where I can post what I want (:

 

 

 

 

This is going to be a weird question, but it’s in response to a sort of weird answer given on your Cosplayer Score Card.  When asked if you do Nudes, you said “Half-Yes (boobies).” For “More than Nudes,” you answered “Half-Yes (I make softporn, but no full nude yet, who knows what future will bring.)” How did that come about?  How does that work?  LOL I think most people that would draw the line at boobs would not do softcore porn at all.  It’s like just your boobies are naughty, or you’re saving “that” for someone special.

 

 

Soo, this is going to be a bit personal, but quite frankly, I didn’t know how far I “could” go in the beginning of me opening up socials.  I’m not saying “want”, cause it has always been a dream to create similar content to the one that I consume and look at myself from other creators.  When I first made a Facebook page, (my first social ever) I was still in school and I didn’t really know what [kind of job] I would work.  I always assumed I would have a boss one day, and work a more standard job, so I didn’t want my boss to fire me for doing very sexy stuff.  I kept it to lingerie at first.  After about a year I finally made enough to realize, that maybe I could live off this.  By now, I definitely can and while my job can only be temporary due to it’s physical nature, I plan to stay self-employed as I can’t imagine not being my own boss.  So, my only limits now are what I WANT to do, without the fear of it affecting my work life negatively.  I also want to take it at my own pace and tempo.

I could see myself doing full nude or even porn, but I don’t have it planned out 100% yet, and I hope people will not pressure me.

 

 

 

 

A little birdie told me that your professional abilities go beyond your costuming and modeling.  Who does the editing for your pictures?

 

 

Yep, that’s me. c: Editing pictures is what consumes the most time in my job and honestly, a bit too much.  I would love to have more time to plan out big and complicated projects, get more into crafting or even streaming, so I might hire someone to help me with editing in the future.

I love editing, cause for me it’s some kind of magic or maybe “translation” to fully portray the vision of what I had in mind when I was in front of the camera.  I just wish it wouldn’t take so long, ahaha.

 

 

 

 

You have a true knack for modeling.  You radiate sexiness and cuteness in so many varying degrees.  You’re a natural, but what got you into cosplaying?  What made you then make that jump to erotic cosplay and content?

 

 

My, my, thank you.  The first question is answered easily though.  When I was still in school, (I was 15 I think) a friend asked me to cosplay with her together, and she explained what cosplay is to me.  I tried it, loved it, and didn’t stop ever since. ;3

For the second question:  I actually was interested in erotic content way before I got interested in cosplay!  Look at my old notebooks for school.  You’ll find them full with scribbles of tiddies and naked women. xD I was always fascinated by the beauty of the human body, especially the curves of women, (yup, I’m bisexual by the way) so it was only natural to me to combine my love for erotica with my love for cosplay (:

Actually, I also took erotic casual content before I took cosplay content, (of course I never sent that to anyone and I never will, cause I was rather young) so, my love for erotica was definitely first!

 

 

 

 

If you never discovered cosplay, do you think you would still provide erotic content?  Do you ever think about doing specialty porn?

 

Yep, 100% certain about that! I would also like to emphasize here that I would even create erotic content if it didn’t bring me any money, as I did in the start as well.  I would simply not be able to create as many projects as I do now.  Fashion, makeup, lingerie, paying photographers, accessory, props, renting locations, travel costs, and cosplay most of all, is all together very expensive.

 

 

 

 

Do you have a lot admirers and fans within your home of Germany, or is it more international?  Is there a country or countries that seem to give you the most love?

 

My follower base is mostly from the US actually, even though quite a few are also from Germany, yes.  I get lots of love in English and German, sadly I don’t understand what other languages have to say about me.

 

 

 

 

When it comes to cosplays, you choose very sexy characters and variations.  Do you have any characters that you think you might want to try outside your comfort zone?  ‘Any that you think people might be surprised to see you do? (I actually have the perfect cosplay for you:  The Jeff from Teen Titans Go!)

 

Oh, I think I actually pick a decent amount of non-sexy character designs as well, it’s usually the boudoir or lewd version of the character that I alter into something sexier.  For example, High Elf Archer from Goblin Slayer sure is cute, but I wouldn’t say her design is especially sexy (aka revealing).  I often make a full cosplay + alternative skimpier versions.

The only thing that’s kinda out of my comfort zone is guys (or in Jeff’s case, people who are supposed to appear male), so Jeff gets a no from me ;3 My first cosplay was a guy (Claude Faustus from Black Butler) but I’m feeling more comfortable portraying women as my face shape and body suits them more.

 

 

 

 

Other than photo shoots or content compilations, are there any other artists that you like to do work with?  Do you ever work other cosplayers for big costuming or prop making projects?

 

Oh plenty! DAMN YOU COVID for ruining my collab plans for 2021, there’s so many cool girls out there I want to meet but yeah traveling is tough rn.  I only meet up with some girls close (Germany, Belgium) to me every few months or so rn and we make sure we all are quarantining 2 weeks prior and take COVID tests.

And yeah I recently finally started to get into crafting more.  Dear Mikomi Hokina helped me with a big project I haven’t finished yet, but you will see when it’s done!  I’m a crafting noob so I still have plenty to learn!

 

 

 

 

What do you do when you are not cosplaying, modeling, or editing?  What do you like to do in your free time?

 

 

I read, (mostly fantasy/sci-fi) game, (mostly League and some Indie games on the side) draw, (mostly boobies) dance, workout, and I like to pretend one of my hobbies is writing, except I haven’t written in ages and I feel super bad about it.  I think last time I wrote was when I was still in school and that was… 2017, big oof.  I swear, one day I’m gonna write again. *cries*

OH, and I got into TikTok recently, so that’s something I also wanna explore more!  I wanna do those cool transition videos from couch potato to full dressed up glamour. ahaha

PS: Follow me on TikTok, I’m new there and need guidance. XD (@gumihocosplay)

I swear, there’s not enough hours in a day! It’s driving me crazy, why can’t I have 10 extra hours please…

 

 

 

 

Have you ever attended any conventions outside of Germany?  Are there any conventions in other countries that you want to go to?

 

 

Not yet, but I’d love to! I wanna go to Lucca Comics, (Italy) La Mole, (Mexico) Katsucon, (US) and MCM (UK) so BADLY ;_;

 

 

 

 

Are there any things you would like to accomplish outside the world of cosplay, modeling, and entertainment?

 

Yep, write and publish a book of my own.

 

 

 

 

If there was anything you wanted your fans and admirers to know, what would it be?

 

 

Thanks to you, I’m able to do what I do, and I’ll be forever grateful for that.  I couldn’t imagine my life without you, quite literally.  Any creator is nothing without their audience.  That gives them their stage.  It makes me incredibly happy to read all the motivation, good vibes and feedback from all of you, and I always appreciate constructive feedback too.

That said, here’s a special shoutout to my OnlyFans, cause I never experienced sweeter or more wholesome chats than there.  You guys are the MVPs, and proove the point you can release loads of stress to a person and respect them at the same time. ;3 ‘Makes me happy to make you happy by doing something that makes me happy, double the happiness for everyone, yay! <3

Now that you’re tired of hearing me say the word “happy” I’d like to close the last question of the interview:  Thank you for having me and I hope it was somewhat interesting to read. (:

~ Gumi

Up and Coming Cosplayers with Gumiho: Cosplayer Score Card

 

Cosplay Name: Gumiho

How You Came Up With Name:  Gumiho is Korean and basically means “fox” (in the mythological world, especially), it’s similar to the Japanese word “kitsune.” I love foxes very very much, especially the magical ones from tales and legends, and Ahri, my first league of legends main, is also a kitsune, so it came natural. Kitsune was a name that was already taken a lot in cosplay world, so I dug up the Korean equivalent to this word.  I’m happy with how I can shorten Gumiho to Gumi now as a nickname :3

Other Known Aliases:  Gumi, my preferred nickname

Base of Operations:  Germany!

Years Cosplaying:  I started when I was around 15, I think.  I am 22 now, so that makes…7 years now?

First Cosplay:  ‘Claude Faustus from Black Butler.  I only took one picture of it; so sad!  XD

First Con:  ‘LBM (Leipziger BookFair) when I was 15.  I wore a kimono and cat ears; super cringe, but it was HELLA fun.

Cons per Year:  Before COVID, it was around 6.   I love cons!  Meeting friends, snacking overpriced stuff, buying cool stickers and prints from artists, connecting with followers aka having nice chats, taking weird selfies; ah, I miss it!

Make Your Own Costumes:  ‘Only partially, ‘can’t sew.

Make Your Own Props:  Partially, wanna get into prop making more in the future.

Do Your Own Hair:  Yeah.

Do Your Own Makeup:  Hell yes, I’m practicing that a lot.

Do Your Own Wig Styling:  ;For easier styles yes, for advanced stuff, nope.

Makes Your Own Wigs:  No

Bodypaints:  Sometimes

Favourite Cosplay:  Tough question:  ‘Maybe KDA Evelynn.  I love KDA so much!  I will make new KDA All Out Eve this year too.  :3

Number of times you have been to Dragon Con:  None, that con doesn’t exist in my country.

Patreon, Ko-fi, Onlyfans, Etsy, and/or Support Link:  Patreon:  patreon.com/gumihocosplay, OnlyFans:  onlyfans.com/gumiho, FREE OnlyFans:  onlyfans.com/gumihofree

Lewds:  Yes

Nudes:  Half-Yes (boobies)

More than Nudes:  Half-Yes (I make softporn, but no full nude yet, who knows what future will bring)

Social Media:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gumiho.arts/, Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/gumihocos/, Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/gumiho/, Twitter: https://twitter.com/gumiho_arts, Discord: https://discord.gg/QJJWp6P

Domain of Your Own:  Yes! Need it to store my billions of cosplays!

Secret Super Power:  ‘Can convince myself to buy a new cosplay even if I promised myself a day before to not buy new ones till I finished some old plans…Wait, that’s like a super ANTI-power.  Maybe… ha I got it! Super fast reading.  😀 People are always weirded out by how quick I can finish books.